This week I’ve loved rediscovering a bit of me again.
A bit of the girl I used to be before I became a mum.
For a long while now I’ve kind of hidden away a little bit, unhappy with my body image, I’ve sort of become a little bit of a hermit and often found it far easier to decline nights out with even my friends.
Home has been a safer place for me, where no-one can judge me or look down on me.
Another reason I back away from going out is sometimes that I feel guilty about leaving my husband to look after the children. There are plenty of times where he’ll be out playing golf for entire days but I then feel so madly guilty and bad if I just pop out for a few hours even to the local shops!
I have become better at this lately, having attended a couple of blog conferences etc, but this week things just seemed to become easier.
My social calendar is filling up again and I’ve been out and about with friends, chatting about silly things over drinks or suppers out, discussing serious issues, like proper adult talk, being there for one another and sometimes just out for a good laugh.
I’ve missed these times, and though I don’t expect them to be a daily thing or anything, as I have my other responsibilities to attend to, I hope they become a little more regular.
It’s been so refreshing finding time for myself again, I just hope for it to continue. Though I know this will be down to me saying ‘yes’ and accepting the invites, rather than anything else.
Perhaps this is me turning a corner.
I hope so.
Life is too short to worry about the little things – especially the things we can’t change.
It’s time to love ourselves for who we are and just enjoy life!
Looks like you had a grad time Mrs – and fabulous nails!
It’s really important for us mums not to forget who we are and to let our hair down once in a while.
Well done you.
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Beautiful reminder, I can relate to this post a lot, I am excellent at finding excuses. Its such an hard thing to balance. Good luck saying Yes and finding that ‘me time’ xx
I know how you feel. I sometimesfind it very hard to leave the kids and go out, but yesterday I went to the hairdresser and ended up buying a new dress too because I felt so good after getting out on my own and having a Saturday morning in town.
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By the sound of the fabulous replies I’ve been getting to this post – we are really boot the minority at all. Perhaps it’s just a natural thing we all go through once we’ve had children. But, at least we are beginning to recognise it and do something about it. For ourselves. Yay! Keep it going. Steph xxxx
A lovely post gorgeous lady. I am so glad that you have been out having fun and having some time for yourself. You have had such a rough time recently and you deserve to let your hair down once in a while. Also, can I just want to say that you are absolutely gorgeous – inside and out. And if anyone judges or looks down at you then they are massive poo poo heads and I will say that to their faces. Hugs Mrs H xxxx
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Aww thank you lovely. Unfortunately I’ve come across a few poo poo heads in my time, which each have chipped away at me, but hey, onwards and upwards, hey. Steph xxx
I totally agree life is far too short not to live in the moment. Let go of the guilt, no mum was there for their child 24 hours a day 7 days a week permanently and time away from mum is important for kids to find their feet and build independence even in the early stages. It’s also important for you. Your a person too, deep down, not just a mum, cleaner, cook etc but an actual person who needs to feel like there’s more to life than what’s for dinner and when did I last mop the floor!! Enjoy yourself you’ll probably find your a better parent for it in the long run! PS I think you look fab in your pic….nothing to worry about. #ThisWeekIveLoved
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Oh bless you – what a lovely comment! And thank you for the compliment too. Means lots. You have hit the nail totally on the head with what you’ve said. I will take it all on board. Thanks so much for commenting. Steph xxx
Your so right steph good on you I have been the same since Maisy was born nearly 5 years of not going out much or seeing friends at all but its left me now really anxious about doing things because I’m not used to it – I’m determined to push my self more and try new things life’s for living after all! #ThisWeekIveLoved
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Exactly Amy – that’s what I thought. Too many nasty things in this world can happen to change things, so I just want to enjoy as much of everything while I can. You too – you’re too lovely and beautiful not to be out there enjoying yourself too. Steph xx
Aw lovely post! Good for you! Sometimes we need to experience what we’re missing to really appreciate it 🙂 Thanks for hosting #ThisWeekIveLoved x
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Yes – it’s been a while to get back out and although I’ve been a out a fair few times, I suppose I’m only just realising how important it is to have that bit of time for me. Thanks so much for your comment. Steph xxx
Sounds really good, I always think a night out does you the power of good and it’s good to have some time with fab friends and wine! X
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It really is Isn’t it Julia – I’m so sorry to hear the sad news and just hope you are doing ok. Sending love and hugs. xxxx
This is important isn’t it? I feel like I’ve lost myself somewhere along the line. Enjoy your time rediscovering yourself and having some fun x
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Aww thank you. It sounds like you need to have a little ‘me time’ too though. It’s hard when we feel we’re stuck in a bit of a rut, but I think it just seems that one day, things start creeping back to normal again. Thanks so much for your comment. Steph xxx
Oh your gorgeous girl, you. I totally know how you feel. At home, inside your 4 walls, we are the most beautiful people to our little people and hubby. Outside I feel far less confident: I bet it was so lovely and refreshing to be out. And it did give me a chuckle to hear of your morning after head aches! Haha. Just wish we lived nearer so we could do it together! Xx
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Oh bless you. It’s just so hard sometimes isn’t it. For some it seems to come so naturally, yet for others of us we really have to try hard to find some sort of confidence again. Yes, if only we lived LOTS nearer!!!!!! Steph xxx